How to face uncertainty...Part IV

How?

How to face uncertainty..............Part III

I am fully aware that the day will come

sooner

or

later

I am fully aware that it will take place

sooner

or

later

I am fully aware of the pain that it will bring

sooner

or

later


I am fully aware that it will leave a scar - for the rest of my life

sooner

or

later

I am fully aware of the tears that will move the mountain

sooner

or

later

I am fully aware that life will never be the same again once you are left in the ditch

sooner

or

later

I am fully aware that life is uncertain

why take the chances then?

because uncertainties never say hello

before it drops on your footstep.


I am fully aware that when the day finally arrives

I won't be there

I will be else where

Busy leading my life

As life is uncertain

How to face uncertainty...Part II

At times, we are lost for everything - words, faith, feel....
Many a times, we are uncertain of many things - life, work, friends, family...............
Time and again, we are uncertain about - the happenings, the past, the future, tomorrow....


Uncertainty is never a good feeling
It leaves bad taste in our mouth
Unsettled feeling in our heart
Unfinished business in our soul


We need reaffirmation
We need reconsolation
We need reassurance


And when I received this in my mail box today, I do understand that uncertainty at times can be the catalyst for better things in life....


"Dear Dr........., Greetings...I take this opportunity to let you know that I have a very clear understanding about effective communication and thank you very much. I have learnt a lot from yesterday's workshop. Now I have a vivid view........."


In the final analyses, it doesn't take much to touch a human soul but why is it so complicated?


Mayhaps, because life is never certain............

How to face uncertainty......Part 1

Life, to begin with is uncertain.
We may be laughing away today and drown in sorrow the next day
We may have our love ones today and not with us tomorrow
We may have our comfy job today and jobless the next day
We may have the health today and cripple tomorrow

We may be breathing happily today and down in grave tomorrow


Hence, how do we face uncertainty?
There is no hard and fast rules on how best to deal, cope and manage uncertainty.

So,
Smile
Smile
Smile
Smile
Smile

You may not be on a candid camera
But you are always on a borrowed time
Until it is taken away from you
By the giver

Until then,
Smile
Smile
Smile
Smie
Smile


Life is uncertain, indeed .....................


But, there is definitely once certainty in life : death
We live until we die. We makeup the rest.

Quotes of the month........mine, but of course....

Besday cake yang dishare dengan seorang mahkluk lagi tapi bukan "mahkluk Tuhan yang paling seksi....:)

Shepard Pie yang menjadi "isu" hakmilik..........:)

Steam Fish ala Sintoq/Danoq oleh chef import.........

Bostong Butter Prawn oleh chef Bostong......

My family - CRAB.........

Jemput lah makang kekawang.....jangang stressssssssssssssssss......:) apa2pung, kita tatap freng....he he he...this is the second parteeee....many more to come...got one year what...:)

Credit pixs to Budak Kopi. Thank You (sesiapa mau hire dia untuk gambaq kahwin, bercerai, mati....also kan.......:)

Karyna aka Nana already complained - lamanya tak update blog Happy Badak ni....dah tak happy ka....what to do ma...semua badak terlampau happy and sibuk ber-happening elsewhere......

• Hence, I decided - after one day ber-potpet about Communication to a group of receptive and active Kanita's clan and rushed back to a meeting at the school which ended at half six, I just need to rejuvenate. Nak pi masat pun tak larat...nampak sofa cung ku sahaja di rumah.....However, in order to reach the sofa, I need to drive and so penat now.......so sehingga menantikan masuk waktu untuk berconversation with God, I shall update this blog first.......

Sempena besday ku yang ke 23 two weeks ago,- diulangi ke 23 - I received many "kelakar seram" cards yang memang menghiburkan and left me in stiches. Okay - those cards were created by some money making companies but what is more significant and touched my dear lame heart are the words written by the sender. It truly reflects how much the sender knows me...........

• And to me, ini adalah yang paling I gelak golek2 sebab for a 12 years old girl (Iman anak Ms.Ponti), she is really, really sensitive to my needs and wants la.....
• "Happy Birthday. Wishing you lots of happiness and FOOD"...ha ha ha...
• Food, indeed...she could have had written health, wealth or other stuff however she is well aware of my priority in life........:)

• Another card from someone close to my heart has a fire engine blinking with the siren blasting away and the msg written was :
• "Jika berlaku kebakarang, tak kira lah DALAM HATI ka....betul-betul ka.....ingatlah pesanang ai....". That's because I selalu terbakaq hati dengan dia....:0
  
  
• From another person close to my heart : Ada dilekatkan stamp 50sen by Lat gambar a student lukis wajah gurunya and kat bawah written "Guru Sekolah Yang Garang"......with a msg "Check out the stamp! Wa simpan punya lama...tak nampak, pakai spek...."..........chessssss.......
  
  
• A card from my another anak sedara, Adam yang sangat adore I and pulun tunggu I pulang KL and tidor dengan dia sebab nak share "personal stories" yang "only Ngah can know"....
• "When are you coming back?" - that was the msg, never mind the wish...ha ha ha..........

• A card from a newly found good friend yang ada 8 ucapang spesifik but what I like best was : "Che Wang....Saya berharap you tidak akan berkahwin demi kebahagiaan dan kepentingan I"....can ????ha ha ha.......(and you said I am self-centered????????? :)

• Of course I also received cards from my sober & primp & proper friends yang cute-muit and ucapang yang short but very meaningful and straight to the point like "Only ONE number matters. Number ONE!". Get ittttttttttt!!!!!

• And today was a real pleasant surprise.......I received a cung vase (sebab I suka beli fresh flowers and letak kat rumah) "Also supaya ikang2 you boleh diletakkan dalam vase yang lebih besaq so dapat bernyawa and vase ini letak bunga" - begitulah pesanang penaja pemberi........

• When I came back to the office , a bouquet of awesome orangy roses (yes-my favourite colour), purple carnation (yes...purple) daisies, baby showers with a card stated "We LAP U" was waiting for me...........so happy I am........

• Ohhhh...I also received a PINK badak ok from my badak freng yang comel banget.....(badak yang comel...bukan kawang I tu....but if u insist....ha ha ha.......jangan mare my freng.....)
  

• And another tersentuh jiwa quote (altho tak relevan dengan besday) was from my student. I was telling him how my friends are waiting for me to die so that they can ambik my handbags and shoes......and terus muka dia sedih and cakap "Dr jangan la mati dulu. Saya nak mati sebelum Dr. Saya tak nak Dr tak ada, baik saya yang mati dulu"..........can you beat that?????? tak....dia tak bodek sebab dia memang A student............ishk...ishk...ishk......

• And the bestest besday gift would be the fact that I still have people around me who still lurvveeee me despite the fact that I am garang, cruel, cranky and self-centered........ha ha ha....

• I lurrrrveeeeee you all........mwahhhhhhhhhhhhhh...Thank you all for "staying" in my life...............

-Che Dak Laura Ashley-

In the name of luurrrveeeeee..........................

I am blessed to have awesome friends that can cook and bake very well. These are cooked and baked with lurrrrveee by an awesome couple who strongly believe in kenyang badaks are happy badaks....HA HA HA.........

Sapa2 yang dok jauh like KL tu, droooollllll je lah.........

-Che Dak LA-

A sad Monday...............

• It has been a sad Monday morning for me. Two of my students came with their stories - a sad one indeed.

• The first, a cheerful looking girl came to ask if she should resit for my Human Communication course. She has gotten a C- and would like to improve on her grade. I like students with this kind of attitude. Hence, I explained all the procedures and after that she told me that she missed the whole of last semester. And I asked why to which she answered "I was involved in an accident". I figured that out as I can see raw scars on her fair face.

• She said that a car did U turn in front of them and collided with their car. "My father died, my stepmom broke her legs and the rest were badly injured,". I said sorry to hear that. And the story did not stop there.

• "I was in coma for 4 days. When I woke up, I lost my memory and could not remember anything. Only a month after that I regained my memory and started asking questions. My mom kept on telling people that I "sakit otak". I was so pissed off so I told her that everytime she said that, that's a doa for me from a mother,".

• So I told her that "probably your mom did not know how to explain to people your condition which could be "a temporary unstable mind". To make it easier and to avoid answering too many complicated questions, she reduced to such simple answer which may not be totally true but that's how she thought it was best at that point. She meant well, am sure".

• And I asked her about her stepmom. Her quick two words answer left me dumbfounded. "Dah berambus". Not knowing how to react I quickly said "oh, not a good relationship I guess,". And she went on and on and on - venting out her frustration over her family's situation.

• I told her, as cliche as it may sounds, that everything happens for the best. Only God knows what is best for us. So stay strong for her mom and do well in her studies so that she can enjoy a good life with her mom.

• She also managed to tell me how her so-called-bestfriends (four of them) ignored her after she got back from her one semester leave just because she decided to change some aspects of her life. "I have changed for the better because I wanted to,". "And that's not all, my boyfriend broke off with me as well,".

• I asked her age and she said 20. "Never mind. There are 29millions people in Malaysia and you will definitely gain better friends and obviously, better man in your life. Don't worry about them because they did not deserve you after all. You deserve better people in your life. Just enjoy your studies, get good grades and take good care of your mom,". Ohhh.....she worries about the economic downturn and job opportunites as well. "Get your degree first and then we worry about that. If you don't get your degree, what's the point of worrying world issues," I said.

• She left with a big smile on her face. She just needed someone to talk to and listen to her. Am glad that she came to me. Such hugh emotional roller coaster ride for her at that age and I hope that she is able to cope well.

• Another third year student came after that with a letter. "I want to take leave for a month and the dean has given his approval,". And I asked why."My mom passed away on Christmas Day" and I saw the death cert attached to the letter.

• I casually asked the cause of death and she said "A bike hit her while she was doing morning walk with her friends. She fell on the road and her head hit on the road and she never regained conscious. The doctor said that all her system went dead immediately after,". And she started to cry.

• "The sad thing is that we sort of know who did that to her and it happened nearby our house. Everyday we have to pass by that road in order to go back home. My father is now very unwell and very shocked of her sudden departure. One of her walking friend is loosing her mind now because she could not cope with the fact that mom is gone forever. So, I have to take leave to take care of my father who is now living alone and very unstable," she said between sobs.

• I hugged her and told her that at least her mom did not suffer, if that is of any consolation to her. And she agreed. I told her that I can emphatize with her and she needs to be strong for her father and for herself.

• I almost broke into tears when she said "before she went off, she told me that she wanted to attend my graduation which is in August,". I told her that her mom will always be with her - graduation or otherwise - and yes, she will definitely be with her on the graduation day - in her mind, spirit, heart and soul. She will be watching her proudly receiving her scroll.

• I felt sad for both of them. At that age, they have to deal with such heart-breaking situation. At that age, I was crying outloud because I did not have the so-called proper attire to wear to certain places, did not have the matching shoes, did not have this and that and thought that was real world issues. And others have to deal with matters of life and death. An sad but awakening Monday morning for me.......There must be a reason why God send the two students with their share of stories to me.............

-Che Dak LA-